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Anonymous: So my whole life I've had boyfriends, been there done that with them and I have truly enjoyed it. But recently I've spent some time taking a look at myself and I think I'm bisexual. Like i have these sexual thoughts about girls and have tried persuing a relationship with girls but when push comes to shove I always chicken out but I kick myself over and over in my head because I play out all these scenes that are quite wonderful but I'm terrified to make them a reality for fear of what others will think. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and if someone found out I even had these thoughts my life would be over. Any thoughts?

I think the only way you’ll truly know is by experimenting and you may not be ready to do that just yet. I’d give it some more time and thought. Then, when you’re ready, try experimenting with a girl.

I’m all for being yourself and not hiding who you truly are, but a lot of my LGBT friends have told me it’s much easier to come out when you’re a bit older. Some people wait until they’re of legal age, away at college or living with friends that support their lifestyle because they’re fearful of getting harassed at school or getting kicked out of their house. Maybe that’s the way you should go if you’re worried about your small town judging you. 

Remember, what you’re feeling is okay and normal. I think everyone questions themselves at some point. Never be ashamed of who you are. Do what’s best for you and what makes you happy. Best of luck. :)

Anonymous: that anon down there, i can relate to. my story is similar to that. theres this guy i met in february. when we talked, we instantly clicked. i fell completely head over heels for him as time went on. he does like me back, we flirt alot and we call each other cute and hang out and what not. you'd think it's a dream come true, the absolute perfect guy that wants you too. thats not the case, at all. he's moving tomorrow. to maryland. i live in massachusetts... thats 500 miles away. we would be dating if he werent moving. he wants to forget about me and let me be with someone who will make me happy. but i dont think i could ever forget him, he is everything i wanted, and more. he means so much to me and i'm gonna miss him so much

It totally sucks when you or someone you love moves away but distance is only a number. There are a lot of families and loved ones who aren’t able to see each other everyday but that doesn’t mean they don’t love one another.

I’m sorry that your friend is reacting this way. Just because you guys are 500 miles apart doesn’t mean he has to forget you. You can still keep in touch and be friends. But I do understand if he’s hurting right now. Moving away and leaving everything behind can’t be easy.

I don’t think you’ll ever forget him, either. But you will get over him with time. Like I said previously, you’ll meet someone new and be happy. :)

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Anonymous: Alright, here it goes:
I like this guy, Andrew. He's graduating high school this coming Thursday. I'm a sophomore, so I have to see him go. Over the summer, he's going to be teaching my sister piano so I get to see him every week. I'm in love with him. I can't stop talking about him, can't stop thinking about him. When he actually does leave for college, I don't know what I'll do. Probably some dramatic run-around-the-corner-lean-against-the-wall-and-slide-down-sobbing move. We live in California, and he's going to Johns Hopkins University, which is in Maryland. He's promised to come back and visit me.
Whenever I see him, it makes my whole day better. In fact, I look forward to the one class we have together. On those days, I'm the happiest. I'm comfortable around him. I always feel as if I can be myself. He's open and honest with me. He's always constantly touching me in an intimate-but-not-suggestive way - a hand on my arm, fingers against mine, an arm around my shoulders. Once, he put his fingertips against my lips, then traced them up my cheek and over my eyelids, telling me I had wonderful eyelashes and skin, and I thought I would melt.
I'm seriously in love with him. But he has a girlfriend who he absolutely adores. and I don't hate her for it. She makes him happy, and because of that, I'm happy.
But I'm also sad because he's not mine. And I'm alone. What can I do? To maybe get over him, or minimize the pain I have inside from not having him?
Omg, sorry this is so long, like holy shit I can't even.

Don’t worry about the length. It’s fine. :) The best way to get over someone is to stop thinking about them and talking to them. It’s really hard but it’ll get easier with time. Surround yourself with family, watch movies, listen to music, go out with friends. Just keep yourself busy and your mind off him. Eventually, you’ll meet someone new; someone you’ll like even more than Andrew and you won’t feel the pain you have inside. Basically, what I’m saying is give it time. Everything gets better with time! That’s the keyword. Best wishes! :)

Anonymous: I'm a 18 year old guy and I've never had a girlfriend. I really like this girl I'm friends with but I'm scared to tell her. What if she doesn't feel the same way and things are weird after? I don't want to ruin the friendship.

The transition between friendship and a romantic relationship can be awkward and tough. But well worth it if everything works out. I say you should go for it and at least let her know how you feel. You could be missing out on something really great and might regret not telling her in the future. I hope it all works out for you. :)

Anonymous: Im succesfully going for a girl that has a boyfreind....does that make me a bad person?

Sometimes we make bad choices but that doesn’t mean we’re bad people. That being said, I hope you realize that what you’re doing is not exactly right, though. If not, I would work on it. Cheating and breaking people up is not really a healthy lifestyle. 

I do realize that things can get complicated and we can’t control who we fall in love with. If that’s the case, you need to sit her down and ask her to make up her mind about who she wants to be with. Sometimes people are in relationships but there is someone out there who is better for them. That’s the whole point of dating. Finding your perfect match.

I wish you the best of luck. :)